Seemingly nice dudes in quite esteemed careers asking to hook up in 24 hours and sending them naked pics of myself despite multiple times telling them that I didn’t want to.” As a male coach for smart, strong, successful women, I apologize on behalf of all men. But they really don’t get what it’s like to walk a mile in your shoes.
I wrote about this in Finding the One Online extensively – what it’s like to be a woman dating online and how men need to up their games to connect.
A huge mistake women make is trash-talking other women in front of the man they're dating. I can't believe she's going around in public like that." What you're doing when you make comments like this is telling him that you aren't confident in the way you look.
Ironically enough, if you could take the best of those women and the best of those men, and place them in a big room where they could sit at a table and ask each other questions in person – you’d probably have 4 or 5 new match-ups by the end of the night. All they have to do is get online every day, sitting on their princess throne and file through the dozens or more profiles of men who have messaged them throughout the day.
The problem with online dating is that you can’t see the person’s face when they’re telling you about themselves. I think it’s hard for guys to comprehend the world of online dating from a woman’s perspective. They then flippantly toss out all of those well thought out, carefully crafted messages from most of those poor schmucks, and then they log onto their Facebook accounts to complain to their girlfriends that there are no “good men” left in the world.
For example, you're out with him when a woman walks by wearing a skimpy short skirt. It tells him that you don't love who you are and haven't embraced your own body.
You're planting a seed of doubt in him, causing him to wonder if he should date someone else who's more confident. Here's a typical scenario: The guy you're dating looks at you and says, "You really look beautiful tonight." Ten minutes later you look at him and ask, "How do I look tonight?