Decades ago the statistics ranged from six to fourteen months.Ted Huston, a leading researcher on transitions in relationships, marriage and parenthood, followed couples for 13 years starting in 1979.I was sure he was the one, I felt ready, and I knew he loved me back, so why not move ahead?Meanwhile, my husband was enjoying our dating relationship, felt no urge to get married right then, and only looked at me blankly when I tried to describe my feelings about the situation. Without even really realizing it, I responded with pressure.Ladies, before you get too excited let me tell you two things about those success stories:1. I can only imagine the frustration and pain they constantly had to suffer as year after year flew by with nothing more to show for than some I love you’s and promises of impending engagement, as they watched their friends walk down the wedding aisle one by one.
Couples who fell fast in love were engaged after nine months, and married after 18 months.
On another note, he is the first man I've been with that has a very low sex drive—we go for weeks without having sex. Sincerely, In Denial Dear Ms Denial, There are several "red flags" in this relationship. Have him have a physical exam to see if there is a medical basis for his this.
The largest red flag I see is the fact that you are willing to settle within this relationship. If you want to be married and have children, why are you still with this guy if he doesn’t want the same?
If it doesn’t happen by your one year anniversary, I’d say it’s time to “go on now go, walk out the door”. I can’t see a good reason to be engaged for more than a few months or for as long as it takes to plan your perfect wedding. And by the way, the same applies to guys dating girls that won’t commit.
Unless the guy is in the middle of med school (or the equivalent), he shouldn’t need more than 6 months to at least make a to marry you in the near future. If you can’t get clarity by then, chances are extremely high that it will never happen.